A few years ago, I was at a dark point in my life.

I was caught in a cycle of endless dating apps and pickup artists promoting superficial tactics.

Self-help gurus offered one-size-fits-all solutions, but none of it felt authentic.

I was left frustrated and disillusioned.

I felt resentful and ashamed of the relationships I was attracting.

On the surface, I seemed okay—a successful guy with a promising career—but beneath it all, I was depressed, filled with anxiety, and terrified to be myself for fear of pushing people away.

What I really wanted was a wife and kids—a meaningful, committed relationship that felt real.

But how could I expect someone to date me if I wouldn't even date myself?

I realized I needed to align with my purpose driven authentic self and clear my internal blocks.

I dedicated two years to myself, reflecting on all my past relationships and honestly confronting why they didn't work out.

During this time, I created a ritual called Fire and Ice.

It started as my personal medicine—a combination of elixir ceremonies, breathwork, primal movement, connection exercises, ice plunges, and dance.

These practices helped me break free from old patterns, overcome internal blocks, and reconnect with who I truly am.

Fire and Ice became more than just a ritual—it evolved into an event that helped over 1,000 people break free from ruts, creative blocks, and depression.

It was through this journey that I embraced the mantra: "Magic Happens in the Hang Time."

It reminded me to relax into the moment and be present.

I got my health in alignment, hit the gym, nurtured my mental space, and rebuilt myself from the ground up.

The path was lonely at times, but everything changed when I got crystal clear on what I wanted in a relationship.

I put the tallest order into the universe.

I was detailed about everything:

- How she would treat me

- How I felt around her

- What she looked like

- How she carried herself

- What type of wife and mother she would be

I held that image and kept working on myself.

I told myself, "It may be tomorrow, or it may be ten years from now, but this is what I want, and she is on her way to me."

Funny thing was, she was already in my life—I just wasn't ready for her until I made these changes within myself.

Within a month, I stepped into a deeply intentional relationship.

We were both a bit afraid because it seemed like this would be our first healthy relationship—and that was scary.

Even though I had done so much work, there was still more to do.

Clearing old patterns and trauma while in the relationship tested us both.

It wasn't until I flew into the fire and came out unscathed on the other side that we fell deeper in love, bound in trust.

Today, I'm married to the love of my life, and we have a beautiful daughter.

The journey wasn't easy, but it was worth every moment.

Finding meaningful relationships isn't simple—I know because I've been there.

I've taken my own medicine, the same practices I incorporated into Fire and Ice, and now I share it with others.

I know that when you are aligned, purpose-driven, and harmonious within yourself, you become a magnet for deep and meaningful relationships.

I'm not here to teach you how to date others.

I'm here to show you how to date and love yourself.

And together, we can navigate the challenges and align you with your true self.

If my story resonates with you, and you're ready to embark on your own journey toward authentic love and connection, I'm here to guide you.

Big Love,

Joe

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P.S. If you're curious about Fire and Ice or how my journey can support yours, feel free to reach out. Remember, magic happens when you step into your authentic self.